I take a lot of heat for what is deemed as a mean spirited or negative stance when it's simply just me being honest & outgoing with my thoughts, opinions and advice. Most of the time what I speak, write or post is not negative nor intended as such; it simply is what it is and gets misconstrued as negative for reasons only those who think it is can explain. The vast majority of the time when I post something, it is intended to be taken as humor, but there are times I speak freely & honestly from my heart, like now.
There are people in this world that are users and for the life of me I can not understand 1) how they can be so devious 2) how they always seem to skirt the consequences & come out as the victim 3) how they sucker good people in to believing and comforting them and 4) should I feel bad that/when karma bites them that I feel a sense of gratification?
Without getting in to specific details, such a scenario as posted above has happened of late to someone I was once bitten by & I'm torn with this sense of joy that they finally got what's coming to them as well as a sense of feeling bad, not for them personally, but that someone, anyone is going through a rough patch, especially in the holiday season.
Most people just (and only want to) see the exterior of the people they know, especially in a social media setting and far too often we are guilty of considering those people (true) friends with all the benefits that come with said title easily bestowed upon them, when in fact they are nothing more than acquaintances. I freely admit I've done that. Sure, they are there to console you, tell you what you want to hear or comfort you, that's part of the magic of social media.
A while ago, I gave up a vast amount of "friends" because of an incident that occurred to me via an ill conceived notion of a long-distance social media connection that turned out to be (for me) nothing more than a plot to use. Whether I'm seeing that as fact or just seeing it as the scorned is irrelevant to the argument because the truth of the matter is, underhanded and preplanned acts where taken that were never publicly shared with online and attending "friends" that in turn caused me to look in a defiant, angry mindset and by association assumed I was a "bag guy" I could go in to detail on how the chain of events actually occurred but there is really no point. In the end, I am glad it all happened. There were those who (I believe) saw what went down as it actually happened & they are are still in my online life; while those who bought "the story" are not. The only thing that still pains me are those in my physical life that still associate with that person, albeit on rare occasions; and still to that, I fully respect their decisions to do so because I know people do not take things a personal as I do.
Should I feel bad that circumstances have caused the above person grief? I don't know, but I do not. I don't wish any ill will toward anyone yet I'm a firm believer that in life, without lessons or should I say "having to eat crow" on occasion is the only way you can grow, mature or evolve as a person. I don't feel joy or pride they are getting their comeuppance for what they did to me personally; I don't feel a sense of schadenfreude for their misfortune but rather a glimmer of happiness that they may possibly learn that they can not treat people as they have & not expect karmic retribution which would hopefully in turn cause them to cease being the conniving person they had been.
Sometimes it takes a while, but I will continue to believe that the people that use others will, themselves be used by another. It is at that precise moment they must either take their medicine and come out of it a better person, or they will continue to use and one by one lose every person they hold dear to them until finally it comes down to being just them, and a reflection in a mirror.
Finally, a piece of advice to everyone: If you're in a relationship, things couldn't be going better, you're as happy as can be and out of nowhere you get asked "Do you lie?" followed by things immediately turning south: Take heed, because something is up.
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